For men, a face-to-face position indicates challenge or confrontation. Marxist social theorists claim that those who shape our language are in control. Men are less responsive; their talk is more abstract and less personal. I am an international keynote speaker who helps leaders enhance their influence and impact skills. Gender and Discourse: The Power of Talk.
Gender issues in communication begin at birth and are part of your life until you die. Because many of these men are married to women who work in the home, they have a harder time conceiving of women running organizations, and therefore are not as objective when making hiring and promotion decisions. For example, both women and men can be nurturing, aggressive, task-focused, or sentimental. Sargent recommends that both men and women should state their own needs and not back down even if the immediate response is not acceptance. Misunderstanding 3 She: Call me when you get there and let me know you made it safely.
Women should also not undercut what they are saying with their nonverbal actions. Society often expects that a woman should be polite and well behaved. You may be unfamiliar with the unique communication style of the other gender. Concluding Comments It seems that while we have more or less learned how to communicate with people from different languages and cultures, we still have not learned how to communicate across gender lines. I suppose it has something to do with our past experiences and the vulnerability many of us feel in our personal relationships with the opposite sex. Include people of different genders, races, backgrounds, etc. Women sometimes deal with problems especially emotional concerns by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others.
A husband may want to confront conflict, while the wife may try to avoid it. Humans use language to create a flow of conversation between each other in order to sustain relationships. Compare your own communication style with that of individuals whom you judge to be effective communicators. Only for a brief time do children engage in mixed-gender play and dress before they relinquish the gender behavior of the other sex. If you tend to speak in vague generalities, maybe you should work on more detail and specific information in your conversation. When considering how gender affects communication, keep in mind that with any human interaction, rarely is anything exact.
Make room for the contributions of women. Just because one person may be more abrupt does not mean the person is cold, uncaring or uninvolved. We both laughed, saying Eve Ensler would be so proud. Just the act of communication is a multifaceted process. Communication is therefore vital to human interaction whether between parents and children, bosses and employees or even husband and wife. But it doesn't have to be that way. When a male is dealing with a female of higher rank, his body.
Men are more aware that they need to promote themselves and their hard work and positive results to get ahead. Positive reinforcement of behavior increases the behavior, whereas negative reinforcement decreases it and culture is thought to shape appropriate behavior for boys and girls Payne, 2001. British Journal of Developmental Psychology, 29 4 , 707-721. These gender communication differences begin at very early ages. A woman could be offended when a man simply offers a solution to a problem she is having. We all were watching the news when one of my coworker asked.
Do you use markers of tentativeness when speaking with those in power such as your boss, teachers, or parents? Women tend to avoid confrontation and prefer indirect accusations. Not only do these pieces of literature fall into different categories and specialties, they also deliver varied opinions and results as to what causes the differences discussed. And we are even more vulnerable when it comes to male-female relationships in the workplace. The results here are mixed with some of these studies showing no detectable difference and some studies concluding that a difference was observed. Men are perfectly right to be more direct and ask fewer questions, while women and some men are simply more comfortable with a softer style of communicating. Men use communication to maintain independence, while women talk to maintain intimacy. Situation The context in which communication occur can have an effect dependent on who is taking part in the interaction, i.
What are typical girl and boy toys and what kind of play do they inspire? Women, in conversation with women, discuss personal matters, relationships, family, health and reproduction. Qualitative research is the method that will be used to gain an in-depth look at why the genders have some of their communication problems. Asking Questions Another difference often seen between men and women is women generally ask more questions than men. Some studies have shown that a difference exists in hemispheric activity in men compared with during certain language tasks. For example, men are more likely to communicate as a way to maintain their status and independence, while women tend to view communication as a path to create friendships and build relationships. The personality itself is formed by the sum of life experiences, the level of education, the social and cultural background, etc.
Because men have traditionally been expected to work outside the home to provide financial support for the family, they need to demonstrate their individual competence as this is often the criterion for raises and promotions. Women seem to be more perceptive of non-verbal communication, picking up facial expressions and body language better than men. Dear Roberto, thank you for sharing this article and specially your knowledge and expertise with us. Interrupters are perceived as more successful and driving, but less socially acceptable, reliable, and companionable than the interrupted speaker Reardon, 1995, p. This idea appears to validate the theory of nurture and its effect on communication.
While it's always risky to generalize about gender differences, it's possible to make certain flexible generalities that can be valuable when communicating across the gender line. So, what would you say? Nonverbal differences have been categorized as being: 1. Gender refers to and is created through communication; gender is learned communication behaviors. Generally, men use tasks as a means to connect with others. Both men and women may make conscious choices to speak more directly and abstractly at work, but more personal at home. Question: Where does this lack of awareness surface most often? The other application is with loved ones, family and close friends.